Change is something that can be very scary. It removes you from your comfort zone, and forces you to think outside the box. Many people are afraid of the unknown, and “change” can be just that, however it can also be a positive transition in life. It has been one of the best things that I’ve experienced yet. Change for me started three years ago when I decided to leave my comfort zone, which was my hometown. I’d grown up there for years and had the same circle of friends. We all had similar goals, which didn’t consist of much. We all had similar agendas, get cute, party, drink, work, begin again.
Exciting right? Well we were young, no kids, and no real responsibilities! But being grown and still doing the same things? Oh no! Once I moved away and started meeting new people, my eyes began to open and my mind started to expand. The people that were placed in my path all had something in common, they all had goals! They knew where they were heading and they were passionate about getting there. The things I began to learn about amazed me. As minute as some of these things were I was shocked that I’d never been exposed to them. Things such as a vision board, something I’d never heard of back home. I was introduced to people from all over that were educated, well-rounded, and well-respected. I knew that if this was going to be my circle, I definitely had some changing to do!
Change was the greatest thing that could have ever happened to me. It saved my sanity, changed my direction, my circle of friends and the way I carry myself.
Being in a different environment around a new group of people forced me to change my thinking. I was beginning to see exactly how far behind I was and it was not a good feeling…which turned out to be a great thing! It made me so uncomfortable that I wanted to do something different. I think that was the best thing that could’ve ever happened to me, had I remained stagnant I wouldn’t be sharing my experience. I want to get comfortable with being uncomfortable so that I am always evolving. Life is all about growth and evolving and I was just getting a taste. Each day I started reading new quotes, listening to different motivational speakers and even reading new books.
I am learning to do things that make me uncomfortable, such as dating myself. Yes I said it, dating myself! You know many of us young women have issues with being alone. We always feel the need to have someone in our lives, in our space, and in our bedrooms. Yes I’m guilty, that was once me as well! Until now, I’ve never truly experienced what it meant to be single, not date, and not have a regular sex partner! But now that I am single and truly just focused on me, I must say this is the happiest that I have ever been! I am now only focused on me and I am only responsible for making me happy! Also, I am figuring out what makes me happy. You know in relationships we are always trying to do what our significant other wants to do. I know I did, each time they would ask “what do you want to eat? Where do you want to go? What do you want to do?” My response was most likely, “Where do you want to go? Where would you like to go? What do you want to eat?” I thought that putting them first is what made me happy! MAN was I wrong!!! In turn it only made me lose myself. I had no idea what I wanted to eat, where I wanted to go and what I wanted to do! I waited on them to make these decisions for me and I went along with it. It’s so easy to get caught up doing these things and not realizing until years later what it really does to you. So if you’re guilty of this, please stop. Begin to know and love your beautiful self, unapologetically!
Change was the greatest thing that could have ever happened to me. It saved my sanity, changed my direction, my circle of friends and the way I carry myself.
I am so thankful for the woman that I continue to become each day! I now have a bright future. I walk with my head held high. I demand respect and I don’t settle for less, no matter what it is! I no longer look for validation from anyone and I know one thing that I’ve never been sure of… I AM MORE THAN ENOUGH!
If you’re someone who is comfortable with the same old things and you don’t see any growth then I have a message for you! Get comfortable with being uncomfortable and watch how your life will begin to evolve!
BLESSINGS BELOVED!
~Mone
Mone’ Wallace is confident, strong, full of love and life, a young black queen, blessed with a profound testimony! Finding my voice through the pen. Follow me on Instagram: divine__beautii.
