Season 4 of Insecure is giving me life immediately! I love that this season, we are really focusing on the growth of our girl duo- Issa & Molly. The sad part is, this could be the end of their friendship. We are definitely witnessing the disintegration of their friendship. To me, all is not lost, however. I see so many opportunities for them to salvage their relationship. Here are 3 things Issa & Molly can teach YOU about friendships or how to sustain one:
1. Communication is KEY
It is vital that friends are able to speak freely around one another. If you are too busy walking on eggshells with them, they are NOT your friend! Not only should you be able to speak freely, but you should be able to communicate things you don’t like. If something said irritates you, discuss the matter. Issa & Molly are failing horribly in the communication department. While Molly has no issue being upfront/blunt or whatever you want to call it; Issa has an issue with confrontation. Instead, they both participate in shady potshots hurled at one another. Again, clear signs that this is NOT your friend.
2. Acceptance of Who I Am
The biggest mistake people make in friendships or any “-ship”, is wanting that person to behave as you do. We have to understand that every individual is just that– an individual. The greatest thing you can do is be a friend to someone for everything that they are, not what you’d like for them to be. In this case, I think Molly hasn’t really accepted who Issa is. Issa’s spirit is a carefree one and Molly is seemingly responsible and more structured. She finds it difficult to accept the decisions Issa makes because of this, but if she just accepted her fully things would be much easier.
3. We are constantly EVOLVING.
I have been through so many phases on this journey of womanhood. During this journey, I’ve had new outlooks on life, perspective, and so much more. You’re really figuring yourself out… constantly. The problem Issa & Molly are facing is that they are both evolving but they are uncomfortable with the new women they are experiencing. Your bestie is evolving just as you are, so have some grace for their growth. Ultimately… sometimes the women you evolve into aren’t compatible with the close friendship they once were.
I am so excited about Season 4 of Insecure! I hope the ladies can work this out, but if not, they are definitely showing us what NOT to do! What are your thoughts on this season? Leave a comment below or join us on our Facebook Page to discuss.
