I’ve adopted the phrase, ‘sorry. not sorry.’ as a personal mantra. I mean, I feel like this phrase has been something people have been wanting to say for years but just couldn’t due to all those pesky PC (politically correct) people out there. Seriously, if you’ve ever heard or said something like…
“I ain’t tryna put you out there, but…”
or
“Let’s call a spade a spade…”
or
“Not trying to be rude or nothing, but…”
It just basically means, you’re trying to set up your truth with an acceptable buffer so you don’t take it ‘the wrong way’. Knowing full well, you want them to take it just like you laid it out there. And don’t forget, if you’ve ever started a sentence with, “Look,…” that means the receiver (victim) is about to get served them real feelings.
I’ve been spinning Queen Bey’s, “Sorry”, back to back on my moody days. Today, I realized I hummed the song from 11:30pm Tuesday evening through today at 2pm! Yes, I was shocked myself. So I had to ask myself, “What is it about this song that you love so much?” So here goes:
- It’s about time people got real about what they’re trying to say without pussy-footing over it.
There are just way too many pansies in the world today. Why? Because, we tend to care so much more about how others will view us if we hurt someone’s feelings, that we forget about our own. What about your feelings when that cousin or friend keeps asking to borrow 20 dollars?
Don’t get mad when I respond, “Hell nah! You don’t have a job to pay me back!” Talking about borrowing something… that’s not a borrow situation. That’s a HAVE situation. You wanna HAVE twenty dollars. Am I wrong? Am I? Sorry, not sorry.
- We’ve forgotten that THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE!
The freedom I’m talking about is being stress free. Whenever you tell folks the truth, watch them start to disappear. Well…the ones that can’t handle the truth will. See how I just did that? The phrase “No shade” is just the set up to said shade. Now that’s for the people who are afraid to keep it real. Just say what you really mean and let the chips fall where they may.
- It comes from a good place. It should anyhow. If not, you’re just being a bully. The statement, “sorry, not sorry” is a statement founded in truth. It honestly means I’m sorry that what I said bothers you, but I’m not sorry I said it (insert sarcasm). And how many times have we been there?
Feel better? Embrace the phrase. Enjoy the phrase. Don’t misuse the phrase. You’ll thank me later.
Always concerned about the plight of my people, I inspire, empower, motivate, and uplift. Moody Cancerian. Lover of life. Tweet me @ihearthatgirl
